I recently got off the phone with my boyfriend and he relayed some unsettling news. Our friends Meg and Jarrod seem to be backing themselves into a corner that will soon leave them with no allies if they keep up this behavior.
Our friend Corey, who was once very close to Jarrod, says that lately whenever he can coax Jarrod to go out he is always quiet and withdrawn. He won’t open up to Corey about what could be bothering him and Corey is getting tired of trying. Then Meg is constantly trying to one-up everybody if someone’s complaining about something to try and make her situation worse. Both Meg and our friend Belle attend the same dance class, as well as had achey foots that day. The next time they saw each other Meg commented on how sore she was after that and Belle agreed, saying how hard it was to walk across her college campus. Apparently Meg had to get more sympathy votes because by constantly cutting her off and saying that she had to work at her store all day and couldn’t sit down, that Belle couldn’t possibly know what kind of pain that is.
And now my boyfriend tells me that after attending Jarrod’s 23rd birthday, Meg calls him and says that my boyfriend acted distant and that he looked like he would rather be doing something else, acting very nonchalant. She also went on to say that Jarrod was upset because people were out of town or couldn’t make it to his party, while everyone made it to mine the week before and made a big deal out of it.
First off it was my 21st birthday and eveyone makes a biggie about that age. Second, I’m living out of town for college for the first time and drove back to see all my friends for the last time until Thanksgiving. Third, unlike Jarrod I’d called and arranged my party plans at least a week in advance to give people warning. He called people the day of and said they were going to a karaoke bar.
While Meg was debasing my boyfriend over the phone he continuously apologized for his demeaner upsetting Jarrod and that he didn’t realize he was doing that. Then Meg snaps at him and says that he’s acting high and mightier ever since he got back from his internship this summer, and said that they wouldn’t be coming to game night at my boyfriend’s apartment that week because they were feeling ostracized from the group. He began to apologize again and she cut him off saying that he needed to stop sounding so sincere when he apaologized………WHAT?!
What I want to know from Meg is that for someone who claims to be so intune with how others are feeling, if my boyfriend looked distant why not ask why and find out what’s wrong instead of chewing his head off later? My boyfriend grew up in a Mormon household and isn’t used to a bar atmosphere (where the karaoke was held) which probably explained his behavior.